have you ever experienced true love? i bet you did. for a moment, for a month, for a number of years. you completed each other sentences, you cutely disagreed on everything, you enjoyed spending time together, you could not wait to get in bed with each other, you masochistically suffered from unanswered feelings, you yelled at your partner endlessly – whatever the definition is for you – you’ve had it.
what happened? did you get bored? did the constant scene of your partner cooking, cleaning, and yelling at your children pretty much eliminated any romantic feelings? did you cheat or found out you were cheated on? did the absence of money and all the responsibilities kill it for you? did you discover separate interests and grew separate paths? did you notice a sickening irritation at everything your partner does? did you develop sense of being a secondary person in your family? did you realize that you can’t depend on your partner at all?
are you still in love? despite all that?
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ReplyDeleteI don't have the answers to your questions, but probably have more questions, like does love really exist . . .
Here is a (recycled) thought:
Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up these defenses, you build this whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life. You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They do something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own any more. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. not just in the mind. It's a soul hurt, a body hurt, a real gets inside you and rips you apart pain. I hate love. - Neil Gaiman
some quotes on the topic:
ReplyDelete"Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, and when you see what the other fellow has, you wish you had ordered that." -Anon
“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more.” -Erica Jong
"I hold you too long against me,/ then I stop counting the minutes as they slip/ by and I still have you/ ear pressed against mine, veins throbbing eternity against my burning skin./ You find the soft part of my cheek--the valley of bones you've been/ staring at all evening--and you press it against yours./ Tight. Tighter./ We're hugging good-night, we tell ourselves./ We're Friends./ You press my cheek against yours, clasp my head and press it further./ I can bring you inside me if I squeeze hard enough, you think./ I can melt you into me and hold you there forever./ Because I want to kiss you./ But I cannot kiss you./ So we hug too hard."-Shirley Zilberstein, "we hug too hard"
Happiness isn't getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got -Garth Brooks
We are not the same person this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person. -W. Somerset Maugham
Love makes time pass. Time makes love pass. -French Proverb
"Love is the delusion that one man differs from another" -Unknown
"Love isn't a feeling that sweeps you away...but a decision you make. It's also a lie two people tell each other, a myth they create together, because loving one person intensely, and being loved by them in return, makes the world a slightly less terrifying place. Love is also never perfect; no two people are perfect for each other, and every relationship has its shortcomings. To accept these things and still love someone is the path of the true idealist.... If all attaining love required was the search for the one person out there who was 'perfect' for you, then love would be easy -- particularly in the days of Internet search engines. As it is, real, lasting love is hard to find and hard to hold onto. But then, anything of value is, right?"-Dan Savage, "Savage Love"
“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that's bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they're afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how you carry it. That's what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you're letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” -Jim Morrison
travelzoo discounts is a separate subject and separated by few lf chars:) the same rule applies to other posts – 2 or more char(13) means not relevant to the subject of the story.
ReplyDeleteall the questions in all the posts are rhetorical – even if one has an answer, it’s only an answer for him(her)self. the answer that seems right now will not necessarily be the same answer as time goes on. however the thoughts are certainly welcome.
as far as all the hurt love quotes – love that hurts is one form of love. i actually seem to think that while one is drawn to this kind of love, other is scared of it (the post below). few people would admit or realize that they do need to hurt and suffer, but the attraction that causes pain and suffering may mean unconscious need for these kind of feelings. there are all these ways that teach to love yourself, and many are born this way. these people don’t want to hurt, they don’t let it happen to them, and the love is wonderful for them when they encounter it. of course this statement is not so black and white, but I believe there is some truth to it. true love should not start with pain, but it happens. true love may grow out of not true love, true love may end very badly and cause pain then, true love may painlessly transform to something else, and true love may stay true love but of course it will not be the same original feeling.
I don't have anything to add, but I can't NOT contribute to a thread that has a Neil Gaiman quote in it
ReplyDeleteSo this is me...contributing ;-)