do you get envious? what do you feel when your friend or someone you know makes more money than you? when this person is smarter than you? when he is more social and popular than you? what do you feel when this other person is better looking than you? when he is happier in love? what do you feel when this other person just seems to have a better life? do you think that your feeling is what people call envy? it is a threat to you? is it a mockery of you? is it admiration, respect, or plain happiness for this other person? does your answer depend on who this lucky other person is?
у тебя случается, что ты испытываешь зависть? что ты чувствуешь, когда твой друг или знакомый зарабатывает больше денег, чем ты? когда этот человек умнее тебя? когда он более общительный и популярный, чем ты? что ты чувствуешь, когда этот человек красивее тебя? когда он более счастливый в любви? что ты чувствуешь, когда жизнь этого человека просто кажется лучшей, чем твоя? тебе кажется, что это ощущение называется завистью? ты чувствуешь это угрозой тебе, насмешкой над тобой? твое чувство - это восхищение, уважение или простое чувство счастья за этого человека? твой ответ зависит от того, кто именно этот удачливый человек?
It's not so much envy towards another individual, for me, as it is just a reminder of the thing you want that you don't have. It's not that you don't want that other person to have what they do. Jealousy is a negative emotion, and I don't experience it, as such, often.
ReplyDeleteI tend to experience it more in the way that sometimes I see someone that has a quality or thing that I want, or knows something I wish I could know, and I am simply reminded of it. Something that I work on repressing is suddenly brought to light.
It's a a cognitive condition, not an emotional one (although thinking about the lack of something in turn ofen turns it into an emotional experience).
Just waxing philosophic here. I'm probably a jealous bitch after all.
;-)
pull their hair and make them give it to you!
ReplyDelete=)
Seriously, I think that totally depends on personality. Some people are very passive aggressive when they are around someone who has something they find lacking in themselves. Others idolize that person.
I think in normal society you just learn to deal with it...I mean, on some level, doesn't everyone have at least 1 thing you don't? Don't we always want what we don't have? Yearning is core to the human condition. But yearning is a far cry from envy.