do you think you can admire, respect, and love a person who can equally admire, respect, and love you back? do you think that in every relationship there is one who loves and another one who allows to be loved?
do you think that when you are the one who loves, you should accept the treatment from the one you love because you have no other choice? do you think that you can do something, maybe not right away, maybe in the future, that will make you be loved? do you think you will always love the one you love? who do you think you love more – the one you love, or yourself feeling this love?
do you think that when you are the one who allows to be loved, the one who loves you will dump you at the end? do you think you can ever learn to love the one who loves you, the way that you are loved? do you think you don’t deserve this love? do you think that you are the one who loves?
тебе кажется, что ты можешь восхищаться, уважать и любить человека, кто может одинаково восхищаться, уважать и любить тебя? тебе кажется, что в любом взаимоотношении есть один, кто любит, и другой, кто позволяет себя любить?
тебе кажется, что когда ты тот, кто любит, тебе стоит принять существующее обращение с собой от того, кого ты любишь, из-за отсутствия выбора? тебе кажется, что ты можешь сделать что-то, возможно не сразу, возможно в будущем, что сделает тебя любимым? тебе кажется, ты будешь всегда любить того, кого ты любишь? кого, тебе кажется, ты любишь больше – того, кого ты любишь, или себя, чувствующего эту любовь?
тебе кажется, что когда ты тот, кто позволяет себя любить, тот, кто любит тебя, в какой-то момент оставит тебя? тебе кажется, ты сможешь когда-то научиться любить того, кто любит тебя, так, как тебя любят? тебе кажется, ты не заслуживаешь эту любовь? тебе кажется, что ты, тот, кто любит?
It seems to be like you're asking about 'balance' in relationships...is there ever really a 'perfectly balanced' one? It seems impossible to tell since it is impossible to really measure love and respect and all those things you mention, but on the other hand I guess deep in your heart you'd know which way a relationship tilts. I don't necessarily think a relationship has to be perfectly 'matched' for it to be good, as long as the people involved want the same things and want to be together. But I do think an ideal relationship would be one where it is exactly equal...where one person loves the other in exactly the same way. Because if that's not the case, both people will I'm sure experience those tortured "why don't they love me as much as I love them" or "why don't I love them more, they way they love me" moments. But it can still work, and be good. I don't know. Hmm.
ReplyDeleteit is so interesting to see comments because most of the time they show how the person who reads what you write reads not what you write but what he reads:) and i like it:)
ReplyDeleteWell yeah, that's exactly why I enjoy reading your blog, because the posts are so open ended that they get you thinking and free associating and re-interpreting.
ReplyDeleteI'm curious how you interpret what you posted bc I reread it and I only see it the way I read it! It's so strange how when we read, we do become another 'character' in what we are reading. We are all filters. But it would be cool if you could share what you meant. I understand if you want to keep it open-ended though...I think that's one of your blog 'rules' ;-P
ok, i think it will be open ended even after my explanation;) each post attempts to have a trick in it. the trick of this one is in thinking i put in the minds of two, and then which way the imbalance leans
ReplyDeleteWell, yes, that's still pretty open ended but I think I see what you mean -- it's an interesting question
ReplyDeleteGood post