-- bunch of grammatically challenged very short somewhat autobiographical impromptu stories that keep popping out --
Monday, March 16, 2009
fuck you
i wasn’t born with the fuck you attitude. there is a difference between choosing not to adopt everyone else definition of appropriate behavior versus actually giving them the finger. i was a teenager, when i desperately needed something and had my friend get it for me despite her own disliking. then she told me that when i really wanted something, i was going to do whatever it takes to get it, i was going to hurt other people’s feelings, shit on them, and nothing could ever stop me from getting what i wanted. she told me this was who i was, she told me she was my true friend, she told me she loved me, she told me i had to know this about myself. i was surprised to hear that. it was true about that isolated incident, but i was certain it did not apply to everything i really wanted. but i liked the way it sounded. i decided to adopt the fuck you attitude. hey, everyone’s for themselves, if you don’t want to be pushed, stand up to me, if not, fuck you. yes, there are so many nice people, beautiful people, weak people, gentle people, thoughtful people, polite people, pretty people, soft people. i like you, i sympathize you, i’m entertained by you, i wish you well. i just hope you will not be in the way of what i desperately want.
This isn't so much as a response to the post (which was interesting) as some philosophical
ReplyDeletemusing-ing to waste some time between meetings.
Do you (or the speaker) really half that kind of attitude?
There is a difference between self-interested behavior, something that is natural and almost an evolutionary byproduct, and a fuck-you attitude. In the first scenario, your ultimate goal is yourself and your own happiness, but you go about accomplishing that in a positive way. That could include brutal honesty (hurting ppls feeling) but not hurting anyone. You have no right to impose your own will if you take that right away from others.
The second I think involves purposefuly steppin on others to get what you want. That's different than self-interest, that's already theft. You're taking away someone's right to whatever it is you're ignoring.
Example: You want a train seat. There's only one. You're tired. There are other people around you who maybe need it more (an old lady, a kid, etc.) In scenario 1, you go for that seat, taking that step towards it, because you're working in your own self interest towards what you want. In scenario 2 you push past someone or nudge them out of the way to get to a train seat. That's already something else, because you're taking away their right to work in THEIR own self interest.
I'm ok completely with the first and really abhor the second. Do you think there is a difference if the end product is the same?
i know someone else who likes examples;)
ReplyDeleteas your two questions - these are the "character posts";) and i am sure we all know the difference between walking fast to get something and pushing someone to get it, and all of us can think whatever we like about what "fuck you" really is, all just food for thoughts between our meetings:)
You're a good cook
ReplyDeletei sleep with a wooden pot in my bed too, i just don't tell anybody:)
ReplyDeletealso, i must correct myself - food for thoughts during meetings not in between